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SAMHSA’s Award-Winning Newsletter
September/October 2008, Volume 16, Number 5 

Commitment to Suicide Prevention, Mental Health

Major General Mark Graham and his wife Carol Graham have a personal commitment to suicide prevention.

The Grahams lost their son Kevin, 21, when he was a senior ROTC scholarship student. Kevin died by suicide after he stopped taking his depression medication. Seven months later, they lost their son Jeffrey, 24, an Army Second Lieutenant, in Iraq. His vehicle was hit by an improvised explosive device (IED).

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Carol Graham (left) and her husband Major General Mark Graham (right) are raising awareness about suicide prevention.

General Graham commands the Army’s Division West and Fort Carson in Colorado. Mrs. Graham works at the national level to raise awareness about the dangers of suicide and untreated depression. She also serves the board of directors for the Suicide Prevention Action Network.

Excerpts follow from their conference presentations on August 11, 2008, at Paving the Road Home: Returning Veterans and Behavioral Health.

General Graham: We are here to talk about the stigma surrounding mental health that not only permeates our military, but our entire culture. Many of our soldiers and families live off-post, so we must have a network of care that reaches beyond our military installations and VA centers.

Our soldiers sometimes have wounds you cannot see. Some people come forward about mental health problems and yet, so many do not—why? Are they afraid for their careers? Embarrassed? Maybe even ashamed. Will someone think he is less of a man or she less of a woman or a soldier?

During this period of persistent conflict, I can think of few subjects more important to discuss (for parallel structure) than behavioral health. To me, this has to be one of our top priorities.

There was no breaking news when our son Kevin died by suicide at the age of 21. The pain of losing Kevin was no different from losing Jeff. One son died by his own hand; one son died by the enemy’s hand. We have lost both our sons. When my daughter Melanie looked at me and said, ‘I don’t want to be an only child,’ it broke my heart. What’s a dad to do?

When Kevin died, we were stationed in Korea, and we blamed ourselves for not recognizing the serious warning signs that Kevin’s depression was a true medical illness and not just a sad feeling.

For years we had talked to our children about alcohol, drugs, sex, and even strangers, just about anything we could think of to keep our kids safe and healthy. But our ignorance thinking that all it took to fight depression was a prayer, a proper diet, exercise, and a good night’s sleep, kept us from getting Kevin the best medical care he needed.

People are our support mechanisms. People sustain us when things around our lives appear to be crumbling. People help others by intervening, taking action, and not worrying whether that person will be upset.

So, what can we do?

One of the dangers of not taking action is the very real possibility that more lives will be lost. From our tragedies, my wife Carol, our daughter Melanie, and I have come to realize that in order to survive, we have to use our brokenness to reach out and to give others hope. It has given us direction and revealed enormous purpose for our lives.

We have pledged to use Kevin’s death to raise awareness in the military of the dangers of untreated depression, to remind our leaders about the real injuries of PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] and TBI [traumatic brain injury], and to shed light on mental health issues—some brought on by war and some brought on by natural occurrences that deserve our same level of attention.


Grant Awards Announced

SAMHSA recently announced grant awards for programs related to children's mental health, suicide, drug-free communities, and others.

Grant Awards Update

  National Survey on Drug Use  
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Youth Substance Use Declines

From the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, new national data show a drop in illicit drug use among youth and an increase in adult prescription drug misuse.

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Drugs and Youth: Chart Shows 2002 to 2007 Data

Marijuana, cocaine—changes in use of selected illicit drugs among youth, 2002 versus 2007.

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Recovery Month Testimonials

Two people relate their personal stories of addiction, recovery, and hope.

  Mental Health  
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Making Mental Health Services Accessible

Can primary care doctors help with mental health problems? New strategies to overcome barriers associated with reimbursement.

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Pros and Cons of Self-Disclosure

What are the risks and benefits of revealing a mental health problem to friends or coworkers?

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Bullying: Starting the Conversation

Bullies are out there—SAMHSA resources can help parents and educators address the problem.

  Substance Abuse  
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Mutual Support Groups: Fact Sheet for Providers

What do you know about mutual support groups? Providers can help connect clients with groups that help people achieve recovery.

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First-Time Versus Repeat Admissions

New SAMHSA data reveal characteristics of first-time and repeat admissions to substance abuse treatment.

SAMHSA’s National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices

Registry Posts 100th Evidence-Based Practice

NREPP reaches a milestone—find out how the Registry can link communities to interventions specific to their needs.

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